Message:   Elimination

From: porcupine     Sent: 12 Oct. 2004     Message 1 of 5

Folks, once in a while you have a question that turns your face red. In this case, my sweetheart has a question and is too embarassed to ask, so the job falls to me. I hope this does not offend anyone, but it is a serious question, and there is no better place to ask than the membership of this club who are devoted to the healthy enjoyment of vaginal stretching.

Here goes: My sweetheart is 50, had a total hysterectomy last November, and has been fisting for the last 15 years. She can accept both of my hands (Large Male Hands) and loves it. Off and on she has been concerned that this is not healthy, and may be a compnent in her recurring low back pain. Also (hold your breath), she cannot go "potty" unless she covers her vagina with her hand and presses upward, providing support. We have never fisted anally, and she does not do Kegel exercises for fear that it would tighten her vagina and decrease our fisting pleasure (mostly mine!) I have encouraged her to exercise because I do not feel that there is a correlation between the strength of a muscle and it's range of motion, arguing that you can have strong muscles and fist at the same time. She is worried that her "pelvic floor" has been irretrievably damaged by fisting, and that she will never be the same.

She is understandably concerned about this, but places fisting at the top of her list of prioritites. I place her good health above all, but hate to give up fisting considerring she never had trouble at potty time until after the hysterectomy. The low back pain is another matter, and has been constant for years even though she has had discectomy surgery to relieve it.

Sorry if this is an unpalatable subject, but we are desperate for the input of our friends at CindyandJoe who may experience in these matters.

Thanks Joe and Cindy, and all the members, for your understanding and your advice

Porcupine.