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Message: Almost there but need some help

From: angelfistee Sent: 27 June 2002 Message 1 of 6

Hi... I am new to this site but I love it already! I have been experimenting with fising on and off for a few years. My boy friend and I are wondering if maybe we are doing something wrong. We bought the latex gloves and that allows us to get his hand in my vagina to the point of his knuckles... While I love the feeling I want more! He is afraid to push harder ... afraid he might hurt me and I to be honest dont like that idea either... But is it possible to stretch your vaginal muscles with out any pain at all? ( i am not talking about a lot of pain but even a pinching sensation?
We have even thought of trying to find someone here in Texas to maybe show us how to do this. what do you think?

From: Joe Sent: 27 June 2002 Message 2 of 6

Hi "angelfistee", and welcome to our group.

Here's my "standard advice" to questions from couples who wish to achieve greater stretching results:

1. Read Cindy's first story "Two Hands Are Almost Enough", which you can find on the Message Board - click on "Cindy's stories" over on the left.

2. Read the information in the "Excite club archives" section, especially the subsection "Fisting information" and a thread in that subsection entitled "Common question .. 'How to'".

3. Let the woman be the "project leader" and indicate what she wants done and how much.

4. Take it easy and have fun. Only work on the stretching when both of you are enjoying it.

5. Don't expect quick results. Consider this to be a project that may take many months or even a year or more, and that may never succeed to the extent that you hope. But enjoy the process and don't focus so much on the goal.

As for finding someone else to show you how; I'm not sure exactly what you mean. If you mean finding a couple who would show you how they do it, OK, that sounds fine. If you mean finding some guy who will attempt to fist you "the right way", I'm pretty skeptical. It's not that simple and there wouldn't be the necessary amount of trust there and if you found the wrong guy things just might develop in an unfortunate direction. But it all depends on how confident and daring you are.

Good luck.

Joe

From: bitmap Sent: 27 June 2002 Message 3 of 6

If you are in the Houston area, we can help with teaching you different ways to fist. You can also go to EROS and get the book on fisting A hand in the Bush, The Fine art of Vaginal Fisting. Everynow and then Borders or Hastings will carry it in their lesbian book section.

You can email us at passionwhips@hotmail.com if you would like to get together.

From: janice Sent: 2 July 2002 Message 4 of 6

I don't know if it will help, angelfistee, but the breakthrough (pardon the pun!) came for us when fisting stopped being something that he had to DO to me.

We'd tried on and off for a couple of years and I'd become totally convinced that we had a very basic size mismatch - no way was that hand going to fit inside me and I could feel exactly where it was getting "caught" every time we tried. One night (out of pure frustration as much as anything) I reached down and and began to "ease" the places where I felt the worst of the problem to be - I could actually feel it helping and grabbed the lube and covered my fingers. At this point my partner stopped trying and kept his hand still allowing me to move onto it at my own pace - pausing when i needed to etc. - instead of him pushing into me. Joy of joy....it WORKED!

For me the barrier wasn't (as I firmly believed) a physical one - it was a MENTAL one. Once i became actively involved and turned it around to become something that I was allowing the barrier fell away. We have succeeded on every subsequent occasion too, so it wasn't just a lucky fluke

From: Joe Sent: 2 July 2002 Message 5 of 6

Thanks for your message Janice. I hope it helps some couples who are having trouble in achieving success with vaginal fisting.

It's been mentioned several times on this message board that women who have given birth can get into fisting more easily than women who haven't. Again, it's not a physical difference, at least not significantly. It's more the psychological difference that a woman who has given birth knows from experience that her vagina can stretch by a very large amount without anything "breaking" down there.

Joe

From: kettlebelly Sent: 3 July 2002 Message 6 of 6

When my wife and I started fisting we had the same problem. After many attempts we just couldn't get past the knuckles. Finally we just stoped trying real hard and she relaxed even more. I called her at work and told her when she got home I was goint to shove my fist into her and to think nothing but dirty thoughts untill then. When she got home she was real relaxed and as wet as the ocean. I took her up to the bed and put on my glove. applied the k.y and had her lay back. as i slid my hand slowly into her she closed her legs slightly and when i got to the point that the knuckles got caught she closed her legs a little more. as she did my hand slid home and she came a flood. so... be patient, relax and as his hand slides in... slowly close your legs, but not completly.