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Message: Can women that have not had children fist?

From: mandyln2001 Sent: 20 Mar. 2002 Message 1 of 8

I have a friend that says that she thinks that she can not fist because she has never had any children. I think that she is wrong because even if you have had children, you go back to the same size you was before you had your child. Has anyone here that has not had any children fisted? And if so tell me your experience please.
Mandy

From: Joe Sent: 21 Mar. 2002 Message 2 of 8

Your friend is wrong. Several women on this message board have said that they were into fisting and had not yet had children. There have also been pictures posted of women being fisted and it was indicated that the woman had not had any children yet.

I think it is easier for women who have had children to be able to stretch so a hand can be inserted into their vagina. Partly due to physical reasons - their vaginal muscles have been stretched each time they gave birth. But perhaps more important due to psychological reasons. After having given birth a woman knows from experience that her vaginal muscles can stretch without anything "breaking", so she will be less worried about trying fisting.

From: mandyln2001 Sent: 21 Mar. 2002 Message 3 of 8

Thanks Joe, I will tell her that and maybe she will try it, I think that she is scared to try, but it is well worth it if she can!!
mandy

From: Kayser Soze Sent: 23 Mar. 2002 Message 4 of 8

Well, I am not sure if this is one of those "my friend" questions, but I suppose it makes no difference.

My wife and I have been into fisting now for about a year and a half. I brought up the idea after seening MANY images of it on the internet. I bought the book "A hand in the bush" and we read it together. She was aprehensive, but willing to give it a try. My wife had never had any children, so I figured it may take quite a while. We used some larger toys, and lots of fingers. I didn't keep track, but I'd say after lots of fun and effort, we achived fisting in a few (6) months. Now, my wife LOVES it. I fist her at least once a week, twice this week alone :).

Tell your "friend" that she absolutely CAN get into fisting even if she has not had children. It's more of a question of desire. It may take a while. Don't rush it though, have fun, enjoy yourself, and when it happens it will be that much sweeter.

Soze

From: Tyjardia Sent: 23 Mar. 2002 Message 5 of 8

Mandy,
Joe is right,
I have not had children and yet my girlfriend was able to fist me. It took us several months of long, patient sessons of deep fingering, use of dildos (especially an inflatable one, I REALLY recommend those, they come in a number of sizes). It helps that I do get very wet easily, so wet I will leave a damp patch under me, but even if you do not just use loads and loads of lube. I find the best position is laying on my tummy with a couple of pillows under my pelvis, knees apart.

My girlfriend has given birth three times, but has very good muscle tone, even so I would say it was a little easier for her. She was more able to control her pelvic muscles than me I think, and had a knack with her breathing.

Most important of all is that both people involved understand that fisting is a matter of trust in your partner, and this can take time to build up.
Oh, one other tip. I suggest that you both read several anatomy books and understand how things are arranged down there.

good luck,
tyjardia Annika

From: mandyln2001 Sent: 25 Mar. 2002 Message 6 of 8

Thank ya'll very much for your input, and she is actually a friend lol....I have two children and we have been fisting for a while and didnt have really much trouble getting his fist in, we do not do it too often. I would like to try two fist, but I know that will take some time and alot more stretching.
Mandy

From: otticat Sent: 25 Mar. 2002 Message 7 of 8

My wife and I have also been fisting for many years now. We started before she had any children. As was mentioned above, we took the process very slow over a 1-2 year period before she was able able to take my hand. Years later I find that some nights she does not relax and I can only get a few fingers inside, where other nights I easily slide right in.

Paul

From: c_ur_hot_vida_loca Sent: 25 Mar. 2002 Message 8 of 8

Hi Mandy,

I have children, but they were both born by C-section before any actual dilation of the cervix took place. I have been fisted many times by both men and women and I have had no problems.

I have to tell you though that my fascination with the fisting made me try all sorts of large toys and such to prepare myself for the actual experience. It may be a bit more difficult for your friend, but persistence and lots of lube will make a world of difference. Tell her to be relaxed and enjoy!!

curhotvidaloca