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Message: New to this...need to find way to boyfriends help

From: yodatu Sent: 14 April 2001 Message 1 of 3

I just found this site today and love it! Keep up the good work everyone! I was so happy that I could maybe get some help from people who have "been there, done this"! I have always wanted to be fisted. My current boyfriend, who I trust greatly, is very inexperienced and almost naive about sexual matters. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas as to how I could approach him with fisting and the how to's safely without scaring him? I have toys, which he does not know about, that I use. What can I do to prepare myself more readily for an episode with him? Your comments/suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Thanks everyone...keep this site up!!!!!

Yodatu
Texas

From: Jayceerice Sent: 14 April 2001 Message 2 of 3

I don't think it takes much knowledge to realize that someone you're with has more sexual experience than you do. It's something you feel pretty quickly and I'm sure your boyfriend is aware that you are more experienced than he is. But I don't think that should stop him. His experience may be light but maybe he knows about a lot more than he's said, i.e., reading, the talk, etc, especially if your experience hasn't made him run away. Although some women might consider letting men know what you want aggressive, I've never known a man to shy away when I let them know. After all, many men get their practical education from more experienced women, other than just plain trying whatever hits them as a good idea. It usually encourages them even more. BTW, how long do you think you will be happy with him if you don't bring him up to your satisfaction? But if you need gentle encouragement for him, since he probably already has his hand down there, one gentle way would be when he starts to pull his hand away, tell him "no" quietly, and then tell him what else you want him to do instead, even guiding his hand. One finger, then two fingers ... or work up gradually from wherever you know he's been. I'm pretty sure he'll get the message quick and, at the worst, he will not be sure where he must stop. Just quietly remind him of the rest whenever you're ready.

Since you use adult toys, I expect you mean you have experienced some stretching. That's good prep and I would start your Kegel exercises without waiting. I highly recommend you rest the Fisting Q and A in this community. It's excellent.

Enjoy!

From: yodatu Sent: 15 April 2001 Message 3 of 3

Jaycee...I appreciate your wisdom and response. I see the Q & A Section and will get in to that very soon. Wish me luck...will see what happens. It is hard when it is a long distance relationship where I only get to see him once a month! Have a lot of time for "stretching" and the exercise inbetween huh? ;)

Thands again...Yodatu