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Message: Survey: Why do we love it so much?

From: KnightOwl-J Sent: 2 Jan. 2005 Message 1 of 9

I'm fairly new to this group and hope I don't say anything to offend anyone here, but I'm kind of on a search for self-understanding, and the folks in this group seem very open (pardon the pun) to personal questions.
I'd really like to hear some thoughts on what attracts each of you so much to pussy stretching and fisting. I realize that a fetish requires no explanation or reason, and I'm no psychologist, but I haven't even been able to identify what it is that I find soooo appealing about this! For myself, this is my best guess, though I'm not sure it's complete: I love uninhibitted sex and women who aren't afraid to give in to their primal desires. A woman who enjoys stretching and can take a fist (or more) is obviously not afraid to let her body experience extreme levels of eroticism, and love it! For her to crave intense sexual stimulation beyond what a typical cock alone can provide, arrouses me like nothing else, for some reason.
I would appreciate any views that you may have on this. I am both curious of your feelings, and hope that I may even understand myself better with your help.
For your viewing pleasure, I have attached another photo of my wife stretching, on which comments are also welcome.
Thanks and happy New Year!
J-Dub

From: Joe Sent: 2 Jan. 2005 Message 2 of 9

The "Cindy and Joe 'Data Archive'" is up and running again, and you may find some interesting archived messages related to your questions here:
http://www.cindyandjoearchive.com/Messages/Cat02/index.htm

I'll try to make a personal reply later, after I've thought about it some more. :-)

But I do hope that other members contribute some answers too.

Joe

From: fabFLteacher Sent: 2 Jan. 2005 Message 3 of 9

I am brand new to the group. Anything that gives me pleasure and stretches my "imagination" I want to experience at least once in my life. I am adventurous and yet, I am reserved. This website gives me ideas and desires I never thought were possible. I have been fisted twice and both times bled furiously, but it feels so good I don't want to stop.... but don't want injury either. I don't know if this helps or not... or if it evokes more questions. These are just my thoughts.

From: cookie Sent: 3 Jan. 2005 Message 4 of 9

Hello; in answer to your question, I am male and the love of fisting and stretching is the great visual and sensory .I love to feel my hand stretch a pussy and then all of a sudden have my hand pop in to the wrist with the pussy lips around my upper wrist.Then to feel the orgasmic contractions squeeze my hand are enough to make ME cum.As for stretching with large toys ;to see a big fat toy or object grinding into a stretched pussy while the lady is panting and moaning are just fantasic. You can't get those visuals or sensations from a normal fuck or just fingering with one or two fingers. Especially erotic is to see a woman doing it to herself (fisting or large object fucking)because then you know she really wants it to happen. Those are my thoughts, hope to meet another woman that really loves what I do, Cookie

From: aussieinMN Sent: 9 Jan. 2005 Message 5 of 9

I am a male, and while I do enjoy having an orgasm myself, I think I get more emotional pleasure from taking my female partner to orgasm whether from stroking manually, using toys/vibrators, eating her, or 'the old fashioned way'. (although I think more women are recognizing that screwing doesn't alwats give them the pleasure they deserve and need alternative means of stimulation - I am willing to oblige).
So my interest in stretching and fisting is linked to, perhaps, a fantasy that the extreme eroticism of stretching can elevate the woman's orgasim to greater heights. I fantasize evoking an orgasm akin to that great one experienced by Cindy in one of her videos. And finding (or just watching) a woman who is uninhibited enough to explore her sexuality to the fullest is a great turn on for me.
I really would like to hear more thoughts on this from some of the ladies out there.
Thanks,
Aussie

From: ang® Sent: 11 Jan. 2005 Message 6 of 9

Hmmmmmm thats a very good question.. to one I am not quite sure the answer to...I guess the first one being that I'm a bit submissive and iIenjoy pleasing my partner. I am willing to go above and beyond to ensure that hes getting what he really craves to the best of my ability... secondly I love the feeling of being full and my cervix dipping into the small opening of the thumb and first finger. It produces such intense pleasure that it actually pushes me over the edge of conciousness of anything else happening except what my partner is doing. The orgasms are so strong sometimes I can not even speak coherently for a few mins after... and I guess also would be that I can let go of inhibitions and fears and just totally soak in the feeling of satisfaction and overwhelming eurphoria. The third point being ... is I love the way a cock feels inside me after I've been fisted and I start to close up around it making it tight but fluffy (??? for lack of better discription of the sensation) and nothing I mean nothing compares to the feeling of cum shooting thru the opening of the cervix and on the walls ... that is what gives me the most satisfaction over and above my own orgasms.

Qbert's Wench®

From: Joe Sent: 11 Jan. 2005 Message 7 of 9

Why do I love fisting? Let me count the ways... :-)

Fisting and pussy stretching gives me a feeling of incredible sexual excitement because it is a way of "pushing the boundaries". When doing it (and even when looking at erotic pictures/videos) the thoughts that go through my head are "that's beyond what female bodies normally do", "she's pushing her body beyond what it's been pushed to before", "oh, man, how can she do that?"

This idea that the woman is using her body in a way that is beyond the normal in order for her to attain her sexual satisfaction provides a huge turn-on for me. The basic idea for me is that the woman's sexuality is driving her to push her body more and more, so she can achieve her release, and this idea is the ultimate erotic stimulation for me.

An unfortunate (?) by-product of this thought process is that it leads to wanting to see or experience women who are capable of (and preferably driven to) pushing their bodies to new limits from time to time. Most times when I make love to Cindy the thought is running in the back of my head, "has Cindy really reached her limit? Will we ever do something together that results in Cindy surpassing her current record?"

Joe

PS. I asked Cindy if she would write an explanation of why she loves fisting. She says that for her it isn't so complicated: "It just feels wonderful. The stretching sensation feels good, the feeling of being big and roomy down there feels good, and the in-out stimulation combined with the stretching and roominess sensations go far beyond anything else I've ever experienced!"

From: KnightOwl-J Sent: 15 Jan. 2005 Message 8 of 9

Thanks to ALL for expressing your thoughts on this subject. I can relate to your feelings.
Joe, I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head for me too, with the "pushing the limits" comment. Also, your last paragraph is so true. Sometimes I wonder if it IS unfortunate, because after exposure to such women, it makes it harder sometimes to be impressed by "lesser" women, who don't push that limit. And, it creates a tendency to want to set the bar higher the next time. But, hey! It's good to have standards to live by and goals to strive for..... I think. ;-)
J-Dub

From: Jeri Sent: 25 Feb. 2005 Message 9 of 9

My wife and I don't fist but we like to use big toys. For me, just the site of her pussy wrapped around a huge dildo is so erotic, and when she has a powerful orgasm it is all so sweet. This started out as my personnal fetish and she has willingly become my dildo partner because she finds great pleasure in streatching her pussy open for a thick one. It's not an everyday affair for us, but when the time is right, we go big.

Jeri&Holt