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Message: Qbert aka Shithead

From: qbertswench® Sent: 3 Oct. 2003 Message 1 of 6

Hi everyone,

Im new to the site and since my "not so signifigant other" has posted a message that a lot of you think is demeaning to me. I think you should first hear what i have to say bout it all. I am a realist and I don't like anyone sugar coating the truth.. Qbert was telling the truth. Im a short fat indian squaw looking 36 yr old redneck woman..And I am too heavy for his taste. But by the same token.. he's not exactly my idea of the perfect man which is why hes my "not so signifigant other". As a matter of fact.. more often than not I call him by his real name.. SHITHEAD.

As for my weight at the present he got that wrong i weigh 285lbs and losing daily due to the fact i have now cut sweet tea outta my diet... BY THE WAY for all you trying to lose.. SPLENDA is a great sugar substitute with no after taste. Ive come a long way from 380lbs and I intend to go a lot further.

I guess I should say abit about Mr. Qbert. First of all if it werent for him..I wouldnt be writing this letter because it's kinda hard to use the internet from the grave.

Shortly after my meeting him I was diagnoised with epilepsy and heavily medicated to the point I basically didn't know what world I was in most of the time..In this drug induced haze I decided if I had to live this way for the rest of my life the rest of my life was gonna be very short because there was no way I was gonna take having to have someone else take care of me 24/7 lying down.. period. Its just not part of my personality to allow anyone to do for me what I can do for myself. If I can't do it myself I'll ask for help but dont you dare try to do it for me. Well Mr Qbert came home from work unexpectedly and found my carrying out my last wishes. Needless to say... He stopped me.. and for that I will always be grateful.

4 yrs later I still have a lot to deal with medically and my weight happens to aggraivate most of my medical conditions.. I now have to wear ankle and knee braces every day. I have to use my stupid lil scooter when I go to the stores cause my degenerative arthritis is so bad that my doctors demanded I get a handicapped tag and use the scooter when im out and use the damn braces when im am walking.. or else they were going to have to cut on me.. and I'd face a real posibbility that i might never walk again.

I have Epilepsy, Asthma; Sleep Apnea; Heart Problems, High Blood Pressure, Degenerative Arthritis, and Manic Depression. The entire time since I met Qbert, he's been right there.. going thru it all with me no matter what kind of hardship it put him in. and stayin on my ass about doing what the docs say no matter how bull headed and hateful i got to him or the rest of the world.

I know there are those of you who don't understand the relationship between he and I and believe me .. sometimes we don't as well. We care about the other and help when needed and back up outta the way when we aren't. I was sitting here next to him when he wrote his post and I saw nothing degrading or demeaning about it.. What I did see in that post was our pact that no matter what.. always be honest. And honest he is.. with me.. and with everyone else.. and I'd rather have honesty than someone's sympathy or pity. If that makes others think I have no self esteem then so be it. As far as I am concerned unless they live in my world, pay my bills, and take care of me then they should find someone else besides my shithead to use for a scapegoat for typical stereotyping of the american white male.

Cindy put it very eloquently when she asked "If a woman had posted a message here saying something similar about her current male partner I wonder if the reaction here (the other thread) would have been so antagonistic??" So do I Cindy so do I!

Cindy and Joe I have my own community on MSN groups and I realize what a chore it is to keep a group up and keeping the bs off the message boards.Im sorry for rambling on.. It was Qbert's fault for leaving out important details.. but it pissed me off when the people here judged the senseless shithead first, before trying to find out the whole story. He has a way of leaving out important details so please in the future.. ask him to explain just exactly what he means before the villagers get the torches and the ropes....

Qbert's Wench®

From: Cindy Sent: 4 Oct. 2003 Message 2 of 6

Dear Qbert's Wench,

Thank you for your very frank message. Running this site is an amazing experience sometimes, and messages like yours are a very positive factor. Human life has many sides and conditions that we prefer to hush up and ignore, but these are often the most important sides. It sounds like you and Qbert have a relationship that many "normal" couples should be envious of.

That said, I still think that what Qbert wrote in his original message was in poor taste, although not as serious a problem as it was portrayed to be by a couple of other members. The Internet is a place where we have to be very careful about how we express ourselves, since things like body language and knowledge of the conditions people are in are not visible.

We'd prefer that "Cindy and Joe" focuses on the things we like about certain kinds of sex, and how these activities enhance our relationships with our partners. We'd prefer that the negative things about people's perception of their partners are not aired here, as that just creates an unnecessary negative mood.

Good luck to the two of you. I think you have a pretty good thing going.

Best regards,
Cindy

From: Joe Sent: 4 Oct. 2003 Message 3 of 6

Hi again, now it's my turn.

> We'd prefer that the negative things about people's perception of their partners are not aired here, as that just creates an unnecessary negative mood.

So just to be consistent, please don't call Qbert a "shithead" here - even if he agrees with your opinion of him. :-)

Good luck.

Joe

From: qbertswench® Sent: 4 Oct. 2003 Message 4 of 6

Dear Cindy and Joe,

I am sorry for my negativity and I promise I wont call him by his real name on the boards here anymore. Your right about what the main function of the group should be and that is to focus on the sex and how in it enhances life for each of us. I will do my best in the future to stay on topic and not stray off into no mans land. Sometimes my habit of being honest and straightforward causes others to be uncomfortable.

Having said that.. I am looking forward to being a part of this group. I am learning things from others here.. Some of the concerns I had when qbert first wanted to try it have been put to rest by other members here as well as reading cindys storys. Please keep up the good work and Kudos to both of you for your very informative insight into this sexual realm and you desire to share what youve learned with the rest of us.

Qbert's Wench®

From: TSAR Sent: 5 Oct. 2003 Message 5 of 6

And, while I'm sure that no one else caught it, or, was offended about it, but, how was anything, that was written, stereotyping the great "American White male"? I didn't hear race mentioned, until you injected it!

From: qbertswench® Sent: 5 Oct. 2003 Message 6 of 6

your right tsar.. no one did mention race... i guess i was just blowin off steam at the whole world that day and some of it spilled over into my letter.. please forgive and i promise.. i will do my best to leave my frustrations eslewhere before posting here.

Qbert's Wench®