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Message: Who suggested fisting first?

From: cookie Sent: 16 Nov. 2002 Message 1 of 21

Hello members, I have been wondering in couples that enjoy fisting "which partner initiated the idea of fisting first, the male or female?" In my case it was me(male) ,although my wife had said she had had a fantasy dream of being fisted one night.It would be interesting to me and maybe others to have an informal survey of members . Maybe some of you could just answer here saying which partner it was. Thanks for replies, Cookie

From: RiktorsLady Sent: 17 Nov. 2002 Message 2 of 21

This is from Riktors standpoint. Never did it with the first evil Ex. My idea with the second evil Ex. Very mutual with The Lady.

From: cookie Sent: 17 Nov. 2002 Message 3 of 21

thanks Riktor, so far then that would be male initiate 3 , female 0, mutual 1. Hope more members answer too ,Cookie

From: roy1 Sent: 19 Nov. 2002 Message 4 of 21

Can only comment on my experience. My experience has been that I (male) initiated each fisting. In some instances, the female either couldn't or didn't want to fist. Those who succeeded in being fisted enjoyed the experience wanting more with longer and more intense climaxs.

From: cum69er Sent: 19 Nov. 2002 Message 5 of 21

In our case i (male) was the one to push the idea and my wife is know cool with both stretching and fisting hope this helps
from Craig and Kate

From: cookie Sent: 19 Nov. 2002 Message 6 of 21

Thanks for the answers, it seems like most fisting is initiated by the male partners and then the female enjoys the experience and wants more. Hope more people answer and see if the trend continues . Thanks again Cookie

From: slowlygently Sent: 21 Nov. 2002 Message 7 of 21

In line with a few others, I (male) initiated; my partners (female) wanted to continue.

It'll be interesting to see the results of your 'survey'!

SG

From: jimbo2112athome Sent: 22 Nov. 2002 Message 8 of 21

My idea to start with but GF likes it now, once my whole hand is inside. Yummy!

From: AnnieUK Sent: 23 Nov. 2002 Message 9 of 21

Well sorry to mess up your figs or maybe help them but it was me who initiated fisting so a vote for the female please. Annie

From: cookie Sent: 24 Nov. 2002 Message 10 of 21

Thanks Annie, glad to hear that you initiated fisting first, that's one female. But remember this is not a contest , just a survey hahahaha. Thanks again Cookie

From: punkin Sent: 24 Nov. 2002 Message 11 of 21

I am a female and the one who wants to fist and be fisted. I think my husband would be appalled by this. I must admit it runs through my head daily and that the act being initiated by women isnt as rare as it may appear here! Finding someone as open as me seems to be the big hang up. :)

From: Kayser Soze Sent: 24 Nov. 2002 Message 12 of 21

It's unfortunate that you feel that way. I'm curious, what makes you think that your husband would be appalled? It would sadden the heck out of me if I thought my significant other was holding back sexual fantasies because she thought I might not approve. I realize that your husband and I are different people, but even the things I find disgusting (not many) I would want my wife to tell me about if she found them erotic. We'd figure out something!

You know him better than I, but give the guy a chance and the benefit of the doubt.

Soze

P.S. From your first sentence, maybe you should come by my club :) kayserkrib

From: cookie Sent: 24 Nov. 2002 Message 13 of 21

Hi punkin, I'm glad that you answered and hope more females do the same , it is more valid a survey to hear from all members.I agree with Keyser but also think that you are not alone when it comes to fantasies not being shared with partners.It is too bad but western society has made these things difficult if not taboo, maybe you should show hubby this site casually and see what he says. Well good luck and once again "thanks" Cookie

From: naughtycpl4play Sent: 24 Nov. 2002 Message 14 of 21

I'm a male and enjoy anal stimulation, but of course only with a female or toy. My Ex fisted my a few times and it was extremly pleasurable. I fisted her vagianlly to squirting climaxes that lasted 3-4 times as long as other orgasms. She was also completly spent for some times and not multiple-orgasmic that way. completely wiped out and much more intense satisfaction. The problem was it would be a day or two until she get horny again, rather than hours.. Oh well, it was incredible fun..

From: butch Sent: 25 Nov. 2002 Message 15 of 21

Punkin, if you need help in the fisting department, let me know. :-)

From: Tastiehands Sent: 25 Nov. 2002 Message 16 of 21

Sorry Butch im a man looking for a female to fist.Dont think you can help me unless you know some slim girls for me.

From: Bill and Sue Sent: 25 Nov. 2002 Message 17 of 21

Will Im on the outside as will, It was my wife Sue who wanted to try it after she saw a video about it...

From: Shy Girl Freak Sent: 25 Nov. 2002 Message 18 of 21

Hey there everyone, I just had to say that it was a mutual thing between me and hubby he had intitially brought it up but we talke da bout it together and I had longed to ry it for many years but alot of men think that fisting makes a woman really loose and they get turned off on the thought that she can take a whole hand menaing this makes her loose or whatever the thinking is. But I am all for it.

From: Kayser Soze Sent: 25 Nov. 2002 Message 19 of 21

I might as well skew the curve back toward men

Fisting was originally all my idea. (male) In fact, I never thought she would go for it. I was careful and cautious, and purchased the book "Hand in the Bush". The way it goes about describing fisting and how wonderful it is was perfect for a woman with a couple of reservations.

It took us many months to be able to achieve it, but now we fist nearly once a week and it's amazing

That book was a godsend. She still refers to it every now and then, so I know it played an important role.

Soze

From: Joe Sent: 26 Nov. 2002 Message 20 of 21

Cookie,

This turned out to be an interesting topic for discussion!

In my case it was always me who proposed the idea. Some women just said "no, thanks", but I've had the honor of successfully fisting four women. Three of them (incl. Cindy, of course) loved it once they got used to it, while for the fourth woman it was never more than a ho-hum thing that she did mostly for my sake.

So what's the score so far, Cookie? (I understand that you've also received some answers via e-mail.)

Joe

From: cookie Sent: 26 Nov. 2002 Message 21 of 21

Hi joe, hope you are having a great time. Yes this seems to be a popular topic,and also it is informative to know people thoughts on it.So far from what I see the first fisting experience is initiated by 66% male(2/3) and 33% female(1/3) or 2 to1 on the male side .I hope more members will answer in order to get a more complete result . Thanks to all responders again , Cookie