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Message:   Vaginal Fisting Incidence

From: zappaz1     Sent: December 18, 1999     Message 1 of 10

I remember when vaginal fisting was entirely a "closet activity"
and nobody at all talked about it. It was still being done, and
I knew quite a few that did it even then. Now that it is gradually
beginning to gain some respect, we may find out the true incidence.

Dr. R.L.Dickinson in the early part of this century had some
perspective on fisting, and realized it was done very much more
than was generally realized. He was a very progressive gynecologist
for his time, and he was not embarrassed to talk or publish about
anything. Even before Kinsey did his work, he published many things
on human sexuality.

He once decided to take 100 of his patients in a row and test how
much they stretch vaginally.. using just a light inward pressure
of various diameter balls. He had various sized heavy glass balls
blown by glass blowers and using his set of ball "testers". He set up
a prospective study to test and publish the next 100 cases he examined
in his office. He tested each of the 100 consecutive cases with just
light pressure of the lubricated balls against the introitus (or
vaginal opening). If the ball would not enter the vagina easily... with
no discomfort, he recorded the last size that would.

He published his series with figures to demonstrate the ball sizes
that comfortably entered the vagina in each of his 100 consecutive
cases. "Very surprisingly" the "two largest" in his series still had
their hymenal rings "still intact" (both still unbroken but stretched).
He mentioned in his publications a lot about vaginal stretching and
commented that he thought it caused no injury if gradual and often done.
In one of his publications, he commented about the many women he had
seen who had an intact and unbroken hymenal ring but still had a very
distensible introitus (or opening) and could still do very large vaginal
stretching, but at the same time they had a virginal or "unbroken hymen".
He concluded that the reason was very gradual and frequent stretching
that never allowed the hymen to break. In that regard he stated:

".. under gradual and oft repeated stretching, the elasticity or
distensibility can become sufficient to allow the passage of the
full sized head (I am sure he meant to say full sized "infant head")
or adult hand without nick of hymen or injury to associated structures."

Neither of the two largest ladies in his 100 series (I mentioned) had
ever been married but both comfortably took balls near 4 inches in
diameter. He did not speculate on how much they might stretch "with
discomfort" :-) Those two ladies would have had "broken" hymenal rings
if they had not been into frequent and gradual stretching leading to
probable fisting to account for their ability to comfortably take the
diameter objects they did.

It seems to me that if "only those two" out of a hundred did fisting,
that the incidence way back in Dickinson's time was much higher that
people "even today" give this fetish credit for. My personal guess as
to the incidence of vaginal fisting (judging from my part of the world)
is about one in twenty five. The incidence may be much higher, as people
(even today) will not usually talk freely about the subject. I have only
found about one in twenty to thirty will agree that they have done it
(after taking a careful sexual history). I hope the reticence to talk
about this subject will change in the near future. There is no reason
for this respectable and erotic activity to remain a "closet fetish".

zappaz1@excite.com

Replies (9)


From: UsManiacs     Sent: December 19, 1999     Message 2 of 10

Very interesting comments Zap. I do frequently and openly discuss this and have yet to find a single female who has ever been fisted or even fisted someone else. I have heard more men admit to being fisted, than I have women. Most women are afraid of either ruining their vagina (men fear this as well) or hurting themselves or they don't trust the people they are with to know how.
Gina


From: zappaz1     Sent: December 19, 1999     Message 3 of 10

I once mentioned doing fisting as an erotic activity on an adult group (a group that was not for fisting). That group had 61 female members (135 members altogether) and 4 of the female members said they had done it. One in fifteen seemed like a rather high incidence to me compared to my past experience, and I wondered if some were lying about doing it?

zappaz@excite.com


From: otticat     Sent: December 20, 1999     Message 4 of 10

Thanks for the info Zap. I find it interesting that fisting is one of the few sexual acts that is considered "obscene" by (some) courts, yet might be more common then some people believe.

As a followup, have you seen anything suggesting that fisting is more common in women after childbirth? I remember a reference a while back in a book that fisting shouldn't be attempted until after the woman has had children. My wife an I were fisting long before our first child and never had any problems.
Paul


From: flormo     Sent: December 20, 1999     Message 5 of 10

Considering my "many experiences", I feel that it is easier to attempt fisting after child birth for the woman. Although, the first time that I experenced this wonderfull sexual deviation ? was with a girl that was maybe 15 or 16 years old (as detailed in the members section). I believe that some women have a naturally large opening that can accept large objects, regardless of having given birth previously. My girlfriend of almost 4 years, would not have been able to fist if it wasn't for our many attempts for trying. This took almost 2 years of intense pleasure and stretching to get to the point of where we are at now. I feel that it should only be attempted if you into a long term - loving relationship with total trust. Unless of course you meet a ladyfriend that already has an open and willling pussy. I have met a few of those as well and it makes for quite a wild ride.


From: zappaz1     Sent: December 21, 1999     Message 6 of 10


Flormo, you are correct about some women just naturally stretching more easily. Remember the two largest ladies in Dr. Dickinson's series (mentioned in my above file) were unmarried and were nulliparous. Strangely, the largest openings that I have seen, also had never had a pregnancy. One of those cases later did have.. with birthing pleasure.. even). So, stretching ability is often not related to parity or previous motherhood, but in some, that makes a difference.

I even know of the ability to stretch easily.. running in families.. so it may be hereditary to some extent. Women with certain physical characteristics often do this more easily.

I believe that the reticence to admit to fisting is related to what "Gina" had to say about the "American" stigma on it. This already seems to be changing. It is indeed sad that what heterosexual adults do.. has not kept up pace with the wide acceptance that gays now enjoy. Certainly in a short time, people will become more tolerant and open minded. The internet can change things. We should all "live and let live"... so my moto is also:

"Leben und leben lassen"

zappaz1@excite.com


From: UsManiacs     Sent: December 21, 1999     Message 7 of 10

Hi,
Some people can train themselves to be able to take large objects. I have never had children yet can now fist easily. BUT this was learned over time, with much patience and perseverence.
Also when I was in my teens and even early 20's I had problems being able to take large cocks. One such experience as a teenager is where my fascination with being stretched came from, and the pleasure I derive from it. Because the guy could not penetrate me no matter what--and I was not a virgin, and today his cock would be considered a bit above average (10x2 maybe). So I wasn't born able to fist that I know of, I just wanted to for many years becuase it seemed the ultimate stretch.
My ex-husband would NOT fist me and in fact would use no more than 2 fingers on me, one of the reasons we got divorced was that he was so ignorant sexually and he would not at all respect my wishes or needs. His fear was it would ruin my vagina. Also I think he was insecure about his penis size compared to the toys I used, LOL
When I met my current husband, he had always wanted to fist a woman but had never had the chance. So we both learned this pleasure together, which has made it an excellent experience for us both.
Gina


From: _ladygrace1     Sent: December 22, 1999     Message 8 of 10

As many members now know,I am23 and small,just 5',22"waist and 90 lbs.I used to have a very small viginal opening.My puppy lover couldn't insert his small finger in me when I was 14.Yet that change in 6 months time after some very painful encounters which I do not want to go into save to say that I can take a foot or double fisted by 2 hairy man's arm before I reach 16.Of course by then it was no more stretching but gaping as the muscule and lgament around my vulva and perineum icluding my poupart's ligament were all damaged.


From: [unknown]     Sent: December 23, 1999     Message 9 of 10

i'm 41, and married,and have had two children, one delivered vaginally with no real problem. Since then, i've been fisted a number of times and quite enjoy it.
Even with that though the stretch is quite something, it's not done all that EASILY particularly by a large man's hand. i think many women don't even know about the possibilites that exist with this and how intense it can feel - it just sounds too "kinky" for some. i'm also a BBW, and i've heard theories that BBWs have an easier time with large toys and/or being fisted than our smaller sisters. i don't necessarily believe that, but i've heard more than one person advance it as a theory.
robbie


From: zappaz1     Sent: December 31, 1999     Message 10 of 10

Hi Robbie,

As to BBWs being able to fist easier, I have found that not always to be the case and vaginal stretching is something more individual in nature.

Large bone structure is something that is very strongly related to the ability take larger objects vaginally and many BBWs "do have" larger bone structure than others. This is not always the case, but the very largest vaginal openings I have ever seen were in BBWs. Those ladies had very heavy bone structure and they were also very tall. Their facial features were not fine (like models) but to me they were attractive.

zappaz1@excite.com

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